120 shoe game questions for your wedding reception

The shoe game is the rare wedding activity that needs almost no kit and still gets a whole room laughing. Two chairs, two pairs of shoes and a good list of questions are all it takes. The list is the part couples leave to the last minute, so here are 120 shoe game questions, sorted from sweet to cheeky, with no repeats.

Below you will find how to play, how many questions to ask, which question to finish on, and a simple way to let every guest play along from their phone with a live сауалнама.

What is the wedding shoe game?

The couple sit on two chairs back to back, usually in the middle of the dance floor, and take their shoes off. They swap one shoe each, so both hold one of their own shoes and one of their partner's. A host reads out a question such as "who is the better cook?" and each partner raises the shoe of the person they think the answer is. Because they cannot see each other, the fun comes when the answers do not match, as WeddingWire's guide to the game түсіндіреді.

WeddingWire describes it as a new take on the Newlywed Game, and some couples use that name instead. It works because it shows guests how well the couple know each other's daily lives. The relationship researcher John Gottman calls that detailed knowledge a "махаббат картасы": the part of your brain where you store the personally important information about your partner's life. The shoe game is a love-map check played for laughs.

How to play the shoe game

Pick a host. A best man, maid of honour, the DJ or the MC all work. Give them the question list on a card or phone before the day.
Set up two chairs back to back where everyone can see, then have the couple swap one shoe each.
Agree the rule: raise the shoe of whoever the answer is. If both think it is a tie, some couples raise both shoes.
Ask 15 to 20 questions. WeddingWire suggests keeping the game to about 10 minutes, which is enough for a big laugh without the room drifting off.
Finish on a sweet question (see the last section) so the game ends on a warm note.

Pick a mix from each section below: open with the easy ones, save the funniest for the middle, and keep the cheeky round for when you know the room.

Sweet and easy openers

A safe, crowd-pleasing opening round that suits grandparents and friends alike. Our pick: Жақсы аспаз кім?

Сіздің махаббат хикаяңыз7 мәселелері

Who got butterflies first on the first date?
Who blurted out "I love you" by accident?
Who was more nervous about meeting the other's parents?
Who planned the first holiday together?
Who is the bigger romantic?
Who planned most of this wedding?
Who is more likely to cry at this wedding?

Күнделікті өмір12 мәселелері

Жақсы аспаз кім?
Who is the better parallel parker?
Who is always running late?
Кім ұйымшылырақ?
Who spends more time on their phone?
Who does more of the laundry?
Who leaves the dishes on the side?
Who exercises more?
Who eats more slowly?
Who is always hungry?
Who would eat pudding for breakfast?
Who is clumsier?

Personality and taste11 мәселелері

Who has better taste in music?
Who is more emotional during films?
Who loves travel more?
Who was more studious at school?
Who says sorry first after a disagreement?
Who is more competitive?
Who is needier when they are ill?
Who is the better singer in the shower?
Who has the better style?
Who has the cuter smile?
Who is the bigger party animal?

Funny shoe game questions

Save these for once the room has warmed up. Our pick: Who would wear their jumper inside out without noticing?

Sleep and bed habits6 мәселелері

Who is grumpier in the morning?
Who hogs the duvet?
Who falls asleep first?
Who talks in their sleep?
Who takes up more of the bed?
Who is always cold?

Quirks and habits9 мәселелері

Who is messier?
Who looks in the mirror more?
Who spends longer in the bathroom?
Who loses their keys more often?
Who talks more?
Who is louder?
Who talks to the pets more than to people?
Who sends more memes?
Who has had more parking or speeding tickets?

Food and fashion6 мәселелері

Who would win a hot dog eating contest?
Who has the sweeter tooth?
Who is the pickier eater?
Who has the bigger wardrobe?
Who owns more shoes?
Who would wear their jumper inside out without noticing?

Show-off moments9 мәселелері

Жақсы биші кім?
Who sings louder in the car?
Who tells worse jokes?
Who laughs at their own jokes?
Who was the class clown at school?
Who is more scared of heights?
Who would break something on holiday?
Who believes in aliens?
Who is the cheaper date?

"Who is more likely to" shoe game questions

These work as small predictions about married life. Our pick: Who is more likely to spoil a surprise?

Home and money8 мәселелері

Who is more likely to start a disagreement?
Who is more likely to impulse-buy something online?
Who is more likely to leave clothes on the floor?
Who is more likely to replace the toilet roll?
Who is more likely to raid the fridge at midnight?
Who is more likely to fall asleep in front of the TV?
Who is more likely to admit they are wrong?
Who is more likely to forget an anniversary?

Сыртта және айналасында6 мәселелері

Who is more likely to get lost, even with a map?
Who is more likely to scream at a spider?
Who is more likely to chat to a stranger?
Who is more likely to survive a zombie film?
Who is more likely to get injured doing something silly?
Who is more likely to end up on a reality show?

Sweet and silly6 мәселелері

Who is more likely to buy a surprise gift?
Who is more likely to spoil a surprise?
Who is more likely to cry laughing at a comedy?
Who is more likely to give a back rub?
Who is more likely to bring home a stray cat or dog?
Who is more likely to steal food from the other's plate?

Cheeky but family-friendly shoe game questions

A little flirty, never rude, so this round is safe with grandparents and children in the room. Our pick: Who is shyer than they look?

Flirty and fun10 мәселелері

Who went in for the first kiss?
Who is the bigger flirt?
Who dresses to impress more on a date night?
Who is more ticklish?
Who stole the other's hoodie first?
Who is shyer than they look?
Who is more likely to sneak a kiss in public?
Who sends the soppier texts?
Who gives the better hugs?
Who would try the strangest thing on the menu?

Shoe game questions for best friends, hen dos and stag dos

The shoe game is not only for newlyweds. These work for two best friends at a bridal shower, a hen do or a stag do. Our pick: Who would cry first at the other's wedding?

Мінез және әдеттер7 мәселелері

Who is more stubborn?
Who is the bigger rule-breaker?
Who is more forgetful?
Кім ашық-шашық?
Who gives better advice?
Who would try the bungee jump first?
Who would cope better without their phone for a week?

Мектеп және үй6 мәселелері

Who reads more books?
Who was the teacher's favourite at school?
Who makes their bed every morning?
Who has the neater handwriting?
Who always remembers to lock the door?
Who always knows where everything is?

Достық сәттері7 мәселелері

Who would win in a race?
Who is more likely to cheat at Monopoly?
Who is the bigger Harry Potter fan?
Who replies to messages faster?
Who has the more embarrassing photos of the other?
Who would be first to arrive at the airport?
Who would cry first at the other's wedding?

Sweet questions to end the shoe game

Finish with one or two of these. The classic move is a question both partners answer by raising the other's shoe, or both shoes together. Our pick: Who cannot imagine life without the other?

Warm finishers10 мәселелері

Who fell in love first?
Who knew this was "the one" first?
Who is the luckier one today?
Who is more excited about the future?
Who is the better half?
Who will say "I love you" more in the next 50 years?
Who would give up their last chip for the other?
Who makes the other laugh more?
Who would cross the world to be with the other? (Both shoes, surely.)
Who cannot imagine life without the other?

Let every guest play along

In the classic version only two people play and everyone else watches. Give the guests a job too. Before each shoe goes up, put the same question on screen as a two-option сауалнама with the couple's names as the answers. Guests vote on their phones, then the couple raise their shoes and the room sees whether the crowd and the couple agree.

An AhaSlides live poll titled "Who is the better cook?" with Mia on 8 votes and Ben on 4 — Guests vote on "who is the better cook?" before the couple raise their shoes. Mia and Ben are example names.

A table that disagrees with the bride about who is more likely to forget an anniversary is half the fun. Keep the poll to one question at a time so the game stays quick.

An AhaSlides live poll titled "Who is more likely to forget an anniversary?" with Mia on 5 votes and Ben on 7 — The room can disagree with the couple, and that is half the fun.

Guests can steer the game too. Put the section names on a сауалнама and let the room choose which round the couple play next.

An AhaSlides live poll titled "Which round should the couple play next?" with Funny round on 5 votes, Who is more likely to on 3, Cheeky round on 2 and Sweet finale on 2 — Let the guests choose which round the couple play next.

To close the game, swap the last question for a сөз бұлты: ask every guest for up to three words that describe the couple. The most repeated words grow largest, and the screen gives the couple a keepsake of how their guests see them.

An AhaSlides word cloud titled "Three words for Mia and Ben" with funny as the largest word, alongside kind, loving, goofy, cheeky, adventurous and patient — Finish with a word cloud: three words from every guest to describe the couple.

If you would rather have guests answer questions about the couple than watch the couple answer about each other, try our wedding quiz questions for guests or the ready-made wedding quiz template. For a warm-up the night before, жұптарға арналған викториналық сұрақтар және сұрақтар қоюы ықтимал use a similar format.

Жиі Қойылатын Сұрақтар

Тойға арналған аяқ киім ойыны қалай аталады?

Some couples call it the Newlywed Game, because WeddingWire describes the format as a take on that game: the couple answer questions about each other, here by raising a shoe.

How long does the shoe game last?

About 10 minutes, or roughly 15 to 20 questions, according to WeddingWire. Longer than that and the room starts to drift back to the bar.

How many questions should you ask in the shoe game?

Between 15 and 20. Pick a mix from each section above, open with the easy ones and save the funniest for the middle.

When should you play the shoe game at a wedding?

At the reception. WeddingWire suggests playing it during dinner once the speeches are over, between courses, or in the gap between dinner and dancing, when guests are seated and watching.

What should the last shoe game question be?

Something both partners can answer the same way, such as "who cannot imagine life without the other?", so both raise their partner's shoe and the game ends on a warm moment.

Is the shoe game suitable for children and grandparents?

Yes. Every question here is family friendly, and the cheeky round stays flirty rather than rude. If you want it even tamer, skip that round.

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