75 best couples quiz questions to really get to know each other (2026)

Whether you are a new couple or years in, the strongest relationships come from actually understanding each other, and a good question is the fastest way there. This couples quiz gives you 75 questions across five themes, so the two of you can go beyond the small talk and discover something new.

There are no right answers here. The point is honest conversation, so take turns, listen properly, and enjoy what comes up.

Before you start

Three ground rules make this work:

• Be honest. The whole point is to understand each other better, so share real answers without fear of being judged.
• Be open, not judgemental. Some answers may surprise you. That is fine, as long as you are both willing to listen and grow closer.
• Respect a pass. If either of you is not comfortable with a question, skip it. No pressure.

Want to make it a proper game? Put each question on a slide and let your partner answer live on their phone with AhaSlides, then compare notes.

Getting-to-know-you questions

Light, easy openers to warm up.

1. What was your first impression of me?
2. Do you believe in love at first sight?
3. What is your favourite film of all time?
4. What is your go-to karaoke song?
5. What is a book that stayed with you?
6. What is something that genuinely scares you?
7. What was your favourite subject at school?
8. Which household chore do you dislike most?
9. What does a perfect day off look like for you?
10. What do you do to unwind when you feel stressed?
11. What is your favourite meal to share on a date night?
12. Are you more of a morning person or a night owl?
13. What small thing instantly makes your day better?
14. If we could travel anywhere tomorrow, where would you pick?
15. What is a hobby you have always wanted to try?

Questions about the past

Look back together.

1. Who was your first crush, and what were they like?
2. Are you still in touch with any childhood friends?
3. Did you enjoy your school years?
4. What was the first album or song you truly loved?
5. What is the most daring thing you have ever done?
6. What was your first heartbreak like?
7. What is something you used to believe about relationships but no longer do?
8. What do you miss most about being a child?
9. What is a decision you are proud you made?
10. Who has influenced you the most in your life so far?
11. What is a lesson an ex or a past relationship taught you?
12. What is a moment you would relive if you could?
13. What is a risk that paid off for you?
14. What is a tradition from your upbringing you want to keep?
15. What is something you have forgiven yourself for?

Questions about the future

Where you are both heading.

1. Is building a family important to you?
2. Where do you see yourself in five to ten years?
3. What would your ideal home look like?
4. How do you feel about having children?
5. Is there a place you love that you would like to show me?
6. Would you relocate for a job or a dream?
7. What do you think we balance well in each other?
8. What is something you have long dreamed of doing but have not yet?
9. What are your hopes for us as a couple?
10. Is there a habit you would like to change?
11. Where would you like to live when you retire?
12. What are your financial priorities and goals?
13. What does a successful life look like to you?
14. What is one adventure you want us to have together?
15. What would make the next year a great one for you?

Questions about values and lifestyle

The deeper stuff.

1. When you are having a bad day, what helps most?
2. What is near the top of your bucket list?
3. If you could gain one quality or ability, what would it be?
4. What do you think is your biggest strength in this relationship?
5. Do you tend to follow your head or your heart when deciding?
6. What is one thing about your life you would never change for anyone?
7. What is the one thing that makes you feel most alive?
8. Do you believe everything happens for a reason?
9. What does a healthy relationship look like to you?
10. What do you most want to learn this year?
11. If you could change one thing about how you were raised, what would it be?
12. If you could swap lives with anyone for a day, who and why?
13. When did you first know you wanted to be with me?
14. What makes you feel most appreciated?
15. What is a value you will not compromise on?

Questions about intimacy and connection

Closeness matters too, so talk about it openly and kindly.

1. How did you learn about relationships and intimacy growing up?
2. Where do you most like to be shown affection?
3. What makes you feel closest to me?
4. What is your favourite thing about our relationship?
5. Are you happy with the balance of closeness and space we have?
6. What is one thing you would like us to try together?
7. What makes you feel most confident and comfortable?
8. When do you feel most connected to me?
9. What is the best thing about how we communicate?
10. How would you like our relationship to grow over the years?
11. What is a small gesture that means a lot to you?
12. How do you like to make up after a disagreement?
13. What is something you appreciate but rarely say out loud?
14. What helps you feel safe being vulnerable with me?
15. What is one way I could support you better?

Make it a live couples quiz

These questions work over dinner, but they are even more fun as a game. Put them on slides and have your partner answer live on their phone, then reveal and compare, a great way to spark laughter and surprise.

With the AhaSlides live poll and quiz feature you can build your own couples quiz for free, or adapt a ready-made set from the template library.

Frequently asked questions

Why do couples quizzes help?

Communication and understanding are what keep a relationship strong. Working through questions like these opens up honest conversation and helps you learn something new about each other.

What should we keep in mind before starting?

Be honest, stay open rather than judgemental, and respect a pass if a question feels too personal.

Are these questions only for new couples?

No. They suit new and long-term couples alike, since even partners of many years discover something they had never asked. For more prompts, see our guide to open-ended questions.